Since I Turned 30, No Man Has Asked Me Out – Nigerian Woman Shares Emotional Dating Struggles
A recent opinion column published by Independent Newspaper Nigeria has sparked conversations online after detailing the emotional experience of a Nigerian woman who says no man has asked her out since she turned 30.The piece, written by Ngozi Uma, tells the story of a woman who expressed deep frustration and insecurity about her dating life after reaching the milestone age.
According to the account, she had previously been in relationships, including a serious one in church that ended when her partner was unwilling to commit to marriage.Since turning 30, however, she claims the attention stopped completely — leaving her questioning her appearance, confidence, and desirability.
While friends describe her as attractive and accomplished, she admitted to feeling invisible and emotionally drained.The article explores common societal pressures faced by Nigerian women regarding marriage and age, especially within urban environments like Abuja and other major cities. It also challenges the belief that turning 30 reduces a woman’s chances of finding love.
In response to her concerns, the columnist encouraged self-confidence and patience, noting that many women meet life partners later in life. The piece further suggests that maturity, independence, and strong personal standards may sometimes intimidate potential suitors.
The story has resonated with many readers who say it reflects the quiet struggles of single women navigating dating expectations in modern Nigeria.
As conversations around relationships, marriage timelines, and societal expectations continue, the article serves as a reminder that age does not determine worth — and that love can happen at any stage of life
